Category: Parenting

Instead I held you….

Briar is going through her 4th leap at the moment and wants nothing but my arms….. 

It can be stressful but this time around… With baby number 3, I chose to embrace it! 
Today while Noa was having her nap B was so cranky I lay on the couch with her on my chest and she fell asleep… And so this blog post was inspired… 
I should be cleaning the kitchen and putting away the grocerys but instead I cuddled you…  
I should be hoovering the floors and mopping afterwards. But instead I kissed you and let you sleep…. 
I should be re-washing the clothes I left out in the rain last night and forgot to take in… But instead I held you tighter. 
I could be doing my hair and putting a little bit of make up on but instead I held you.. 
I should be running the piles of clothes in our kitchen through the dryer and put them away… But instead I kiss your tiny hand that is resting on my chest… 
Because one day that tiny little hand won’t reach for me.
One day my chest won’t be where she rests her head. 
One day her tiny hand won’t fit in mine like this. 
And one day her tiny calm body won’t fit on my chest anymore. 
So today….
I held you. 

Surviving the first few days..

Those first few days while you are still in hospital with your beautiful little bundle are indescribable. You are so high on endorphins and adrenalin, and mainly high on love of your little one. You cant sleep if you wanted to because when you are not smiling and talking about your new baby you are staring at them. 

There is nothing at all for you to do but be gentle with yourself and look after your baby. Everything you need is within arms reach and your breakfast, lunch and dinner is made for you. 
All you really want to do is bring your little bundle home.. you big yourself up for the big day and first journey home….
Now what…
Here are a few little tricks to surviving those first few weeks (and months) of motherhood…
Accept Help:
This is my best advice I have ever given and been given. I dont know if it is an Irish or a pride thing, but us Irish have such a tendency to say no to help. The Irish “I’m grand” attitude.. But the more help you have the happier mom you will be- from my experience. When Briar was born my MIL brought over a cooked chicken and a little grocery shop and it was literally the best thing anyone could have done for me. 
Do nothing:
As a mum of three there is ALWAYS something to do. And I am never on top of everything at home. But getting through those first few days/weeks it’s important to just switch off do nothing and lean a little bit heavier on your partner/husband. It might be hardier on them for a while but looking after a newborn especially if you have others kids is hard too. Especially if you are breastfeeding and doing all the nights too!
Sleep:
Its the good Oul “sleep when the baby sleeps” advice but it is so true. Sleep deprivation not only affects you mentally it leaves you looking drained, grey and it can start to takes its toll on you skin too. It’s extremely hard to sleep when baby sleeps when you have other kids or an 18month old like I did but try go to bed super early or when baby starts to get into a bit of a routine go to bed when baby does! These days don’t last forever but the days will be much easier and enjoyable when you’ve had more sleep! 
Eat well and Drink water: 
If you are breastfeeding you are already drinking litres of water!!!! But eating right and drinking enough water is essential for a successful breast feeding journey and also to help you look and feel better after delivery. Never skip a meal. 
Start your day on the right foot:
How you start your day can really effect how your whole day pans out. For me if I put on a little bit of make up, brush my hair and put on something that’s not a tracksuit or lounge pants and my day is already looking brighter.. Now I’m not saying fresh hair and a full face of make up but a bit of mascara and a brush through your hair can make all the difference!! 
Work out:
At the end of those first few weeks my greatest tip is to walk or work out or both! Obviously check with your GP and make sure it’s okay for you to start excersizing again and then the sky’s the limit. For me working out or walking helps me mentally more than anything.
These tips aren’t for everyone and as we know every mom is different. 
These worked for me.. 
Would love to hear your tips to. 
To see more follow me on Instagram and follow my snap chat “lovelifelittle1” and check out my what I get up to Wednesday’s. 

Thanks for reading 
Laura 

One born every 6mins… Briar’s Birth Story!

Let me just clarify Briar is my third. I have read “what to expect when you’re expecting” cover to cover more times than I can recall, and have googled every labour sign, symptom and pain imaginable. 


Briar was born 6minutes after I got to the hospital… 

March 7th 2017…
3am 
I woke to a contraction…. Not a Braxton hick but a real coming in a wave gripping pain….. And breathe.. Contraction.

3.20am
Felt another…

This carried on until the morning and I told Neil to go to work as he works in town and they were still 20 mins apart and might stop…. If I only knew… 

9am..
I dropped Kyle to school and as I was walking out of his yard I grabbed onto the pillar.. Unable to walk with the pain of another contraction. And just as quick it was gone. Am I imagining this?! I called my mum.. “This might be it but I’m not sure I’ll keep you posted” 
I felt a little bit afraid to be honest, afraid of another traumatic birth like Noas. Afraid something might go wrong. Afraid of the pain. And afraid of leaving Noa without me and Kyle in school. 

10.30am
My brother called around to my house for a “cuppa” (totally sent by my mum) and my contractions were now 5mins apart.. “I’ll be fine when I get an epidural” I reassured my worried looking 22 year old brother! “I’ll give Noa a bath and call mum home after” bare in mind Noas labour was 11 hours and Kyle was 9.. And not one to be a drama queen 😉 I thought time was on my side! 

10.45am
Draped over the bath the contractions were getting really intense… And I felt extreme pressure. 
“I’ll just lie down for a few see how I feel” 

WHAT WAS I THINKING?? 

11am 
I called my mum…. 

11.30am
She was in mine and told me to come downstairs and she would bring my to the hospital. 

I made it just to the end of the stairs and I was on all fours on the bottom step. Couldn’t move, couldn’t think, couldn’t breathe.

All I managed was “call an ambulance”

12pm
My mum called an ambulance..

12.10pm 
Mum called again… 

12.15pm
Two paramedics came into my hall, I’m still on all fours… 
“Don’t worry love I’ve delivered loads of babies in my time” as he is popping on his blue latex gloves.. 

Not a chance… He was not delivering my baby! And after what happened with Noa I was way to scared to deliver at home..

So with that said they carried me to the ambulance…

12.25pm
Arrived at NMH. And God help whoever saw me being brought to the delivery room… I would say I scared the LIFE out of any first time expectant mothers.. 
Apologies, labours really not that bad!! 😉 

As soon as I spotted the midwife I said I need an epidural.. 
Why are woman so afraid to give birth without one?! Of course there was no time and the worst bit I knew was over but I felt I needed one to push her out.. 

She examined me and I was 10cm… 
Neil was right by my side (as always) and my mum.. 
Neil said “we are gonna meet our baby really soon” 
“I know honey..” I said, thinking yeah I get it… I know now I’m in labour… 
“No Laura her head is out…” And with one more push she was born… 
12.31pm
Our beautiful Sleeping Beauty was born… 
Briar Rose
7lb 4oz
I’ve only just gotten over the shock….
Thanks for reading… And following.. 
Laura 
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Packing my hospital bag…..

Hi ladies,

I can’t believe the time has come to write this blog post but this week was spending packing my hospital bag!!! 
I am 35weeks pregnant now and thought it best to get packing, especially with two little ones already at home! Better safe than sorry! 
My bag: 
The weightless cabin size suitcase I used for Noa and was just the right size. Small compact and exactly what I needed! My biggest advice is to not bring too much. You don’t need it, and with everyone bringing in bits for you and baby anyway you go home feeling like you’ve stayed for two weeks!! 
The essentials- 
2nightgowns- these I picked up from penneys. I had the exact same with Noa design wise and they were perfect. Short sleeved so youre not too hot but cotton and heavy enough that they’re not too flimsey. Buttons down the front for nursing too which is perfect! 
Dressing gown- again from penneys and actually I am just using the same one I brought on Noa Belle. 
I also picked up this maternity nightgown from primarks new maternity range! It has clips for nursing and will be perfect! At only €12 you literally can’t go wrong!! 

Nursing bras: 
When I had Noa the best nursing bras I had were from mamas&papas at €40 for two. They were really comfortable and great quality so the price wasn’t too much to me. But….
In primarks new maternity range they have these amazing nursing bras… Exact same as what I had before and €12 for both!!!! Sizes were limited so I could only get two but I will be back for more!! 

Slippers: 
Again Primark! 
Baby bits:
It is very hard to judge sizes on what to bring in your bag for baby! Kyle was born 6lb11oz and all his newborn bits fit like a glove! Noa Belle was born 8lb6oz and all her new born bits were too small!!! 
New born goes up to 7lb8oz in next so I went for the “up to 1month” this time as it goes up to 10lbs and I would rather baby grows a little too big than too small like they were for Noa Belle! 

Toiletries: 
Toiletries are all usual bits! But my must have toiletries were for sure multi mam compresses….!!! Lifesavers for breast feeding!! And sore nipples. Johnsons breast pads. If your boobs are on the smaller side these are absolutely perfect! I’m a B and these git so comfortably! Last but not least essential was Carmex… This pregnancy has made my lips so dry and carmex is another lifesaver on that front. I also threw in some dry shampoo just incase I may not be able to wash my hair! 
 
The most important bit for me to put into my hospital bag was two little gifts from the baby to her big brother and sister… Just something small about €20 but I think it’s a lovely idea and makes the day they meet her a little bit about them too. 
So hopefully I haven’t forgetten anything and if I have that’s what husbands are for 😉 
Now just to wait for her arrival…. 
Thanks for reading and please share away! 
Lots of love 
Laura 

Pregnancy Update…. 27 weeks pregnant!

Hi everyone, 

Apologies with the lack of posts lately- I have been very busy!! And the weeks have just flown in!! 
Third pregnancy with a 6 year old and 16month old in toe and the weeks are just flying in. 
Well, so far so good this pregnancy! I feel really good!! Sickness never came back after 11weeks and basically no other symptoms. I have had a lot of pressure and baby is sitting very low and with it being third baby and so close to Noa I guess it’s bound to happen!! But other than that easiest pregnancy so far! But I really can’t complain! 
I am exhausted a lot of the time and by the time Neil gets home from work I am usually handing the two kids over! I work 3 nights a week too so that is starting to take its toll in the last maybe 3 weeks! We had our 20 week scan and also a 3D scan and have found out we are having another little girl so we are over the moon for Noa to have a sister so close in age! Now the name game begins…. All suggestions welcome!!! 
I am still loving the long sleeve maternity tops I posted about on my Facebook from Asos! They’re so practical and comfortable!! 
I haven’t been to the hospital dive 13 weeks so excited to go next week and see how everything is progressing! And from next week I am in the third trimester! 
Thanks for reading, 
Laura and bump X 

Things you should never say to a pregnant woman!

Was it planned? 

Now regardless of if she has been trying for years or got drunk and missed her pill- really this is none of your business. She is telling you because she is excited and wants everyone to be excited too! A more appropriate thing to say is plain and simple… Congratulations.. 
Will this be your last? 
Wow- not sure I’ve even discussed that with my husband yet!!!! 
Your bump is tiny! 

Regardless of a woman’s weight, it’s not something we appreciate you commenting on. And pregnancy is no exception. For a woman that is small like me and very conscious of trying to put on weight I don’t want to hear about how small I look and as for a woman who has more weight and perhaps is not showing at all, the same rules apply.. When you say wow your so tiny, you may mean it as a compliment- all I hear is wow is baby okay?!
If you want to compliment a pregnant just tell her she looks amazing- that’ll do the trick! 
Can I rub your belly? 
NO…. Just no!!
Are you hoping for a girl/boy?? 
She has two boys already so already every second person has said “you’re hoping for a girl?” 
Maybe not!!! I know when I was pregnant second time around I would have loved another little boy for a brother for my son.
You shouldn’t drink/eat that…..
Again, just walk away slowly……
I have been sick for 25 weeks straight, breakfast, lunch and dinner. If I can now finally stomach my beloved latte again then that is exactly what I am going to have. 
You know you’re really pregnant for 10months? 
You know that’s actually really annoying when people remind me!!!

My interesting facts about breastfeeding..

Whether you are pro breastfeeding or anti breastfeeding it always remains the same- how much do you actually even know about it?

I am hugely pro breastfeeding and my opinions are my own. But still I felt in the maternity hospital that I went to I was never told anything about breastfeeding a quick “do you plan on breastfeeding?” At your first apt but that’s it. If the answers yes, like it was for me there was no ok well here are dates of classes to learn or if the answer was no, there was no question of well why and what are your restrictions. Nutritionally breast milk is best for a newborn baby- there is no argument. So I think it should be encouraged more than it is in maternity hospitals. Everything I learned was self thought or from my beautiful sister in law. And 11 months ebf has also taught me tons. 
Here are a few interesting facts I didn’t know about breastfeeding and I think everyone should know! 

  • The amount of breast milk a woman produces has no relation to the size of the woman’s breasts. 
  • Babies that are breastfed have a lower risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) 
  • Every mothers milk has a different and unique smell and a baby can differentiate between their mothers milk and a different woman’s.
  • A mothers milk is constantly changing depending on baby’s needs.
  • Skin to Skin contact in the first few hours after birth helps a baby breastfeed. It helps encourage their natural instinct to latch. A mothers breast can also detect if baby’s temp fluctuates even one degree and will warm or cool breast milk as needed.
  • Mothers can still breastfeed when they are sick, actually its amazing for baby because baby has already been exposed to the germs or virus and by the time mom is showing symptoms, baby is already receiving antibodies through her breast milk.
  • Breastfeeding can burn the same amount of calories as walking seven miles!!
  • Hormones released while breastfeeding actually sends signals to contract your uterus post baby, getting you pre baby tummy back in no time!
  • Breast fed babies get sick much less..it reduces risks of stomach issues, gastroenteritis, ear infections, it reduces the risk of asthma, diabetes and childhood obesity.
Thanks for reading ladies,
lots of love,
Laura
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Pregnancy Update… 13 Weeks pregnant

Hi everyone, 

Neil and I are so excited to announce we are expecting baby Doyle #3 in March 2016. 

Am I the only one that feels no matter what number pregnancy it is I feel like it’s the first all over again. “Is that normal? Is this normal?” It’s amazing which bits you forget. At 6 weeks pregnant I had some cramping and pains and felt a little worried but it was just stretching, which I knew in my gut it was but totally forgot from my last two pregnancies. 
Then came week 7 with what I dreaded most- morning sickness!! I had really bad morning sickness with Noa Belle and prayed it wouldn’t come back! But it did! Every weekend I spent in bed while Neil was off. I never understood why the call it “morning sickness” mine always lasted all day.. 
At 8 weeks I had bad tummy pains and still sickness morning to night.. Even with my  sickness with Noa Belle I did know what to expect but nothing prepares you for sickness morning to night and an 11 month old! 
At the end of our 8th week we had an early scan, we had one on Noa at the same time and it was really nice to just be reassured that although baby is the size of a rasberry there is a strong heartbeat and everything is where it is supposed to be. 
For me before the early scan I felt a little like am I even pregnant?!! Mad I know but I think when you have already been through two pregnancies and the bond that you develop with your unborn baby in the 10 months you’re carrying, it is quiet weird to have no feeling towards it or for me to feel very disconnected at the beginning.
Sickness and tiredness was really getting the better of me until 11 weeks when Neil and I and the kids went to lanzarote and since I never felt better. It might be coincedence approaching the 12 week mark or the help with the kids with Neil there and the lying by a pool 24/7 but I felt great and back to myself for the first time since we found out we were expecting! 
And just like clock work the day we came home I was sick all day and on the plane!! For anyone that has suffered morning sickness bad it can just come out of know where can’t it??! 
At 13 weeks I had my first visit in my maternity hospital, we’ve decided to go back to the national maternity hospital where Noa and Kyle were born! I always found them great and better the devil you know, right? 
As soon as I walked in it felt as if I had never left!! Even some of the staff still remembered me!! 
In our 13 week scan baby was opening and closing their mouth, and moving their little arms and legs around like crazy! It was surreal!! Even third time around!

How am I feeling? Today and this week I am feeling good. I am definitely alot more tired with this baby then the other two. But that’s expected with a 6 year old and a 1 year old!! We don’t have a lot of help with the kids either so takes it’s toll not getting a break when all you want to do is have a 10 min snooze! 
Size of baby? Our baby is the size of a lemon and the length of a pea pod this week! 3inches in length and 1 oz in weight!! 
Cravings? No cravings really so far. Just junk food and take aways- perhaps my body’s way of putting on weight??! 

Baby’s development this week? If baby is a girl she already has over 2 million eggs in her ovaries, how amazing is that?? 
Baby is sucking their thumb at this point and practicing for breastfeeding! 
Baby already has it’s own individual set of fingerprints! 
I’m so excited to be adding a pregnancy side to my blog and doing updates and pregnancy style! 
So stay tuned!! 
Thanks for reading! 
Lots of Love 
Laura 
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Boots Parenting Club

This morning Noa and I had the pleasure of going to the Boots Ireland Parenting Club launch.
Boots Parenting Club is available to mothers of children under 3 and also expectant mothers. When you sign up, you give information about your due date and/or you toddlers date of birth and in turn you receive emails with tailored advise about your specific child and the stage they are at at the moment and special offers.
Another amazing thing about Boots Parenting Club is when you are a part of it you will receive 10 advantage card points for every euro you spend across the baby department. this excludes as usual formula for under 6 months and medicines. Which I think is just so amazing, for products that you are buying everyday anyway you are getting 10cent back for every euro you are spending.
Boots baby section is so extensive, if you get all the bits you are buying everywhere else in there instead together, think how much you could be saving.
A fun promo they are also doing for the launch of their Parenting Club is that for any baby born today boots are giving a €20 voucher for the first 300 applicants- just email the name of your newborn to bootsbabyroi@gmail.com

So back to my morning, firstly it was so good to bring my 10 month old Noa with me. And the event was set up so well, so child friendly. There was loads of nibbles for mum and baby, tea and coffee and juices. Playmates on the floor and ball pits filled with balls that Noa was just loving! A clown doing face-painting and also crayons and pictures for the older kids to colour. Just set up so well and so relaxing for the mums that brought their little ones with them! They had samples off all products Boots have to offer which was great to see as I saw some products I never knew boots stocked. Noa was just loving Violet from leapfrog, that is definitely on our birthday list!

Aisling O’Loughlin gave a talk about her experiences as a mum. We also heard from Niamh O’Reilly from The Nursery and author of  “No Fuss Baby & Toddler Sleep” she gave a great talk and was so helpful in helping mums with any sleep problems they’re having. A boots Pharmacist was also on hand to answer any questions.

This was my vert first blogger event and I was so delighted to be part of it. It was great to meet some other bloggers and mums. And the goodie box at the end was amazing!!
Cant wait for the next one!!
Laura
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Mommys Morning Routine!

I am not a morning person. Never have been, never will be. But having two little ones will definitely force you to be one. (Kicking and screaming for most) Noa wakes up at about 6 every morning and Kyle isn’t far behind her. As I am breastfeeding and co sleeping and sometimes feeding twice or three times during the night, my husband will get up with the kids and I can have an hour more sleep! Well that’s the plan anyway… 

Usually it was 8 am and i am was dragging myself up rushing around trying to get things done in a panic before we have to leave for school! Not a great start to the day for any of us a family. I decided to try make a few changes to benefit us all as a family. And start the day on a happier and much calmer tone. And hopefully carry it on throughout the day! 
Get up 30 mins earlier! 
So the first thing that was obvious to me was that I had to get up earlier. No matter what way Noa slept or how many times she nursed getting up earlier was the main change that had to be made. So alarm set and I am getting up regardless if everyone is still asleep. And regardless of how many times Noa nursed or what time I went to bed at!
Go to bed earlier! 
Neil and I had definitely fallen into the same situation I’m sure all parent do, trying to squeeze every second out of the time from when the kids go to bed till it’s time for us to go to bed. With the two kids asleep it’s so hard to leave that beautifully quiet and peaceful place where you can watch TV or read a book without any interruptions. Or catch up with your husband without having to start the story 4 times because you can’t remember what you are talking about!!!
Drink a glass of water! 
Water and breastfeeding go hand in a hand so for that reason I drink more water now than I ever have in my life! But drinking one glass as soon as you wake up literally kick starts your day! So I try do this every morning!
Shower
I always shower at night time. Seems a bit pointless but I can never face washing my hair in the morning and rushing trying to dry it. But in the morning I always waiting until Noa was having a nap before showering. (Just not washing my hair) It is much more beneficial now to shower first thing and I am a happier (cleaner) mommy and I don’t feel like I am chasing my tail all day. 
Have breakfast, and have it together! 
Sitting down together as a family at meal time is something my family always did when I was growing up and something that is really important to me now in my family. I always wait for my husband to be home before having dinner because I think it’s really important to reconnect as a family after a long day. So why was I rushing around and just grabbing something while we all ate the most important meal of the day seperately? Breakfast is a great time to connect as a family and talk about the day ahead because half an hour later everybody is doing seperate things and apart again! 
These few little changes have really made my life ironically easier. I am not chasing my tail all day I am ready to go and ready for the day ahead!! I am a happy mom and have a happier family for it!! 
Thanks for reading! 
Laura 
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