Surviving the first few days..

Those first few days while you are still in hospital with your beautiful little bundle are indescribable. You are so high on endorphins and adrenalin, and mainly high on love of your little one. You cant sleep if you wanted to because when you are not smiling and talking about your new baby you are staring at them. 

There is nothing at all for you to do but be gentle with yourself and look after your baby. Everything you need is within arms reach and your breakfast, lunch and dinner is made for you. 
All you really want to do is bring your little bundle home.. you big yourself up for the big day and first journey home….
Now what…
Here are a few little tricks to surviving those first few weeks (and months) of motherhood…
Accept Help:
This is my best advice I have ever given and been given. I dont know if it is an Irish or a pride thing, but us Irish have such a tendency to say no to help. The Irish “I’m grand” attitude.. But the more help you have the happier mom you will be- from my experience. When Briar was born my MIL brought over a cooked chicken and a little grocery shop and it was literally the best thing anyone could have done for me. 
Do nothing:
As a mum of three there is ALWAYS something to do. And I am never on top of everything at home. But getting through those first few days/weeks it’s important to just switch off do nothing and lean a little bit heavier on your partner/husband. It might be hardier on them for a while but looking after a newborn especially if you have others kids is hard too. Especially if you are breastfeeding and doing all the nights too!
Sleep:
Its the good Oul “sleep when the baby sleeps” advice but it is so true. Sleep deprivation not only affects you mentally it leaves you looking drained, grey and it can start to takes its toll on you skin too. It’s extremely hard to sleep when baby sleeps when you have other kids or an 18month old like I did but try go to bed super early or when baby starts to get into a bit of a routine go to bed when baby does! These days don’t last forever but the days will be much easier and enjoyable when you’ve had more sleep! 
Eat well and Drink water: 
If you are breastfeeding you are already drinking litres of water!!!! But eating right and drinking enough water is essential for a successful breast feeding journey and also to help you look and feel better after delivery. Never skip a meal. 
Start your day on the right foot:
How you start your day can really effect how your whole day pans out. For me if I put on a little bit of make up, brush my hair and put on something that’s not a tracksuit or lounge pants and my day is already looking brighter.. Now I’m not saying fresh hair and a full face of make up but a bit of mascara and a brush through your hair can make all the difference!! 
Work out:
At the end of those first few weeks my greatest tip is to walk or work out or both! Obviously check with your GP and make sure it’s okay for you to start excersizing again and then the sky’s the limit. For me working out or walking helps me mentally more than anything.
These tips aren’t for everyone and as we know every mom is different. 
These worked for me.. 
Would love to hear your tips to. 
To see more follow me on Instagram and follow my snap chat “lovelifelittle1” and check out my what I get up to Wednesday’s. 

Thanks for reading 
Laura 

One born every 6mins… Briar’s Birth Story!

Let me just clarify Briar is my third. I have read “what to expect when you’re expecting” cover to cover more times than I can recall, and have googled every labour sign, symptom and pain imaginable. 


Briar was born 6minutes after I got to the hospital… 

March 7th 2017…
3am 
I woke to a contraction…. Not a Braxton hick but a real coming in a wave gripping pain….. And breathe.. Contraction.

3.20am
Felt another…

This carried on until the morning and I told Neil to go to work as he works in town and they were still 20 mins apart and might stop…. If I only knew… 

9am..
I dropped Kyle to school and as I was walking out of his yard I grabbed onto the pillar.. Unable to walk with the pain of another contraction. And just as quick it was gone. Am I imagining this?! I called my mum.. “This might be it but I’m not sure I’ll keep you posted” 
I felt a little bit afraid to be honest, afraid of another traumatic birth like Noas. Afraid something might go wrong. Afraid of the pain. And afraid of leaving Noa without me and Kyle in school. 

10.30am
My brother called around to my house for a “cuppa” (totally sent by my mum) and my contractions were now 5mins apart.. “I’ll be fine when I get an epidural” I reassured my worried looking 22 year old brother! “I’ll give Noa a bath and call mum home after” bare in mind Noas labour was 11 hours and Kyle was 9.. And not one to be a drama queen 😉 I thought time was on my side! 

10.45am
Draped over the bath the contractions were getting really intense… And I felt extreme pressure. 
“I’ll just lie down for a few see how I feel” 

WHAT WAS I THINKING?? 

11am 
I called my mum…. 

11.30am
She was in mine and told me to come downstairs and she would bring my to the hospital. 

I made it just to the end of the stairs and I was on all fours on the bottom step. Couldn’t move, couldn’t think, couldn’t breathe.

All I managed was “call an ambulance”

12pm
My mum called an ambulance..

12.10pm 
Mum called again… 

12.15pm
Two paramedics came into my hall, I’m still on all fours… 
“Don’t worry love I’ve delivered loads of babies in my time” as he is popping on his blue latex gloves.. 

Not a chance… He was not delivering my baby! And after what happened with Noa I was way to scared to deliver at home..

So with that said they carried me to the ambulance…

12.25pm
Arrived at NMH. And God help whoever saw me being brought to the delivery room… I would say I scared the LIFE out of any first time expectant mothers.. 
Apologies, labours really not that bad!! 😉 

As soon as I spotted the midwife I said I need an epidural.. 
Why are woman so afraid to give birth without one?! Of course there was no time and the worst bit I knew was over but I felt I needed one to push her out.. 

She examined me and I was 10cm… 
Neil was right by my side (as always) and my mum.. 
Neil said “we are gonna meet our baby really soon” 
“I know honey..” I said, thinking yeah I get it… I know now I’m in labour… 
“No Laura her head is out…” And with one more push she was born… 
12.31pm
Our beautiful Sleeping Beauty was born… 
Briar Rose
7lb 4oz
I’ve only just gotten over the shock….
Thanks for reading… And following.. 
Laura 
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Packing my hospital bag…..

Hi ladies,

I can’t believe the time has come to write this blog post but this week was spending packing my hospital bag!!! 
I am 35weeks pregnant now and thought it best to get packing, especially with two little ones already at home! Better safe than sorry! 
My bag: 
The weightless cabin size suitcase I used for Noa and was just the right size. Small compact and exactly what I needed! My biggest advice is to not bring too much. You don’t need it, and with everyone bringing in bits for you and baby anyway you go home feeling like you’ve stayed for two weeks!! 
The essentials- 
2nightgowns- these I picked up from penneys. I had the exact same with Noa design wise and they were perfect. Short sleeved so youre not too hot but cotton and heavy enough that they’re not too flimsey. Buttons down the front for nursing too which is perfect! 
Dressing gown- again from penneys and actually I am just using the same one I brought on Noa Belle. 
I also picked up this maternity nightgown from primarks new maternity range! It has clips for nursing and will be perfect! At only €12 you literally can’t go wrong!! 

Nursing bras: 
When I had Noa the best nursing bras I had were from mamas&papas at €40 for two. They were really comfortable and great quality so the price wasn’t too much to me. But….
In primarks new maternity range they have these amazing nursing bras… Exact same as what I had before and €12 for both!!!! Sizes were limited so I could only get two but I will be back for more!! 

Slippers: 
Again Primark! 
Baby bits:
It is very hard to judge sizes on what to bring in your bag for baby! Kyle was born 6lb11oz and all his newborn bits fit like a glove! Noa Belle was born 8lb6oz and all her new born bits were too small!!! 
New born goes up to 7lb8oz in next so I went for the “up to 1month” this time as it goes up to 10lbs and I would rather baby grows a little too big than too small like they were for Noa Belle! 

Toiletries: 
Toiletries are all usual bits! But my must have toiletries were for sure multi mam compresses….!!! Lifesavers for breast feeding!! And sore nipples. Johnsons breast pads. If your boobs are on the smaller side these are absolutely perfect! I’m a B and these git so comfortably! Last but not least essential was Carmex… This pregnancy has made my lips so dry and carmex is another lifesaver on that front. I also threw in some dry shampoo just incase I may not be able to wash my hair! 
 
The most important bit for me to put into my hospital bag was two little gifts from the baby to her big brother and sister… Just something small about €20 but I think it’s a lovely idea and makes the day they meet her a little bit about them too. 
So hopefully I haven’t forgetten anything and if I have that’s what husbands are for 😉 
Now just to wait for her arrival…. 
Thanks for reading and please share away! 
Lots of love 
Laura 

No7 review

Hi ladies, 

As a beautician, I have tried and tested most products. I am almost ashamed to say that no7 ultimately slipped under my radar all these years… I recently tried their serum and new mascara and I am shockingly impressed.. 
Firstly 
The serum.. 

This just blew me away. 
I immediately saw a result with this serum.. It is light and a little goes a really long way. It leaves my skin feeling nourished, rejuvenated and doesn’t feel like I’ve even put anything on my skin. I’ve bought my 2nd tube of it and have recommended to all my friends and family.. And I highly recommend it to you too… 
I use it after I cleanse and tone my face and before my moisturiser. 
If you have used it comment below and let me know what you think.. Do you love it as much as I do?  
Next is the velvet lash mascara… 
I have never really found a mascara I love, one that I can go back to knowing it delivers. I always just chopped and changed brands always searching for something better… Until now…. 

This mascara is for sure the best one I’ve used to date. It is super easy to apply, it’s not clumpy. It dries quickly and doesn’t leave those awful black patches all around your eyes. People ask me all the time if I’m wearing false lashes when I’m using this mascara, and that’s all I really need to say! Who doesn’t want a mascara that leaves there’s lashes so full and long people start to notice them! Huge thumbs up from me… I’ve found what I’ve been looking for!

What is your favourite mascara or brand? Comment below. 
Thanks for reading… Are you following me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter?? 
Love
Laura 
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My New Years Resolutions….

I’m not one for making New Years resolutions usually but this year Neil and I decided to make some together…. 

I do usually stick to mine in fairness- I gave up smoking on a New Year’s Eve and haven’t touched one since!! 
1. Tv Free Night
One night a week we have decided to keep the tv off and just talk.. As silly as it sounds its something we do anyway every now and again and with two small kids it’s rare to actually get time to sit and talk! 
2. Date Night
As most couples do we have vowed to make date night a specific day and time and stick to it!! 
3. Bake more 
This was more me (although my husband was all for the eating end) I want to try a new dish once a week! 
4. Have more patience
We have two kids and in 2016 it will be three.. I don’t think I have to say anymore… 
5. Detox
Our plan is to drink lemon water every morning. We should be doing it anyway! But now is as good a time to start as any!!
Now as much as people may laugh… As people did with mine! Yes it’s hurtful and discouraging but.. The main thing is you are setting goals, setting challenges and trying to improve your health and mental health. So if you have New Years resolutions I applaud you….. 
Now just stick to them!! 
Lots of love 
Laura x

Pregnancy Update…. 27 weeks pregnant!

Hi everyone, 

Apologies with the lack of posts lately- I have been very busy!! And the weeks have just flown in!! 
Third pregnancy with a 6 year old and 16month old in toe and the weeks are just flying in. 
Well, so far so good this pregnancy! I feel really good!! Sickness never came back after 11weeks and basically no other symptoms. I have had a lot of pressure and baby is sitting very low and with it being third baby and so close to Noa I guess it’s bound to happen!! But other than that easiest pregnancy so far! But I really can’t complain! 
I am exhausted a lot of the time and by the time Neil gets home from work I am usually handing the two kids over! I work 3 nights a week too so that is starting to take its toll in the last maybe 3 weeks! We had our 20 week scan and also a 3D scan and have found out we are having another little girl so we are over the moon for Noa to have a sister so close in age! Now the name game begins…. All suggestions welcome!!! 
I am still loving the long sleeve maternity tops I posted about on my Facebook from Asos! They’re so practical and comfortable!! 
I haven’t been to the hospital dive 13 weeks so excited to go next week and see how everything is progressing! And from next week I am in the third trimester! 
Thanks for reading, 
Laura and bump X 

What do you deserve?

We all know in certain circumstances when it is time to walk away. Whether it is a group of work colleagues that drain the life out of you or mammys at the school you just don’t click with. You stay away, you don’t interact and for all intensive purposes you stay away from situations that are negative and will do nothing but negatively effect you’re mental self, your mood and your aura. Fairly easily, you don’t really know these people and cutting them out doesn’t directly effect your life.
Now what happens when these people are friends, family members, partners and walking away just isn’t as easy as it sounds. 
At what point do you say enough is enough, being around this person or people is affecting your life in a negative way. When do you think about yourself and put you first and say as much as there are many good times and good qualities in this person they just don’t out way the bad any more. 
It is very common to not put yourself first. To grin and bare almost anything for the sake of others. But when should you be selfish, put yourself first and say I deserve better. When do you walk away from a relationship that is draining, stressful and having an effect on every aspect of your life. When do you ignore the fact that you have been friends for 25 years or in a relationship for 10years and had 2 great years or you are blood related and that is paramount. 
When do you say I am a good person, this is not normal, this is not a happy life. And I deserve a happy life. I want to laugh and have fun and be truely happy and that is not something that you make me. 
When the negativity effects every other aspect of your life, how you treat others, how you treat your children, how you treat yourself then for me it is time to walk away. When you have been put down so much that you start to truly believe it yourself then it is time to walk away. 
When a persons negative words become your inner voice it is time to walk away. 
And when u open your mouth and the negativity of that person comes out, it is time to walk away. 
When you are afraid to do something, anything because you know it will cause a problem or you walk on egg shells just to try keep that person in a happy place to make your life easier, when anything you do is never good enough or you walk through the door not knowing which mood or person you are going to meet today it is time to remove yourself from that situation. 
When a factor in a decision you are making is based solely on how another person will react, it is time to walk away.
Life it way too short to be anything but truely happy. It is such a cliche but true.
Life has its ups and downs and people have bad days but when it is more than that and it is effecting every part your life something needs to change. 
I want to spend my life laughing, having fun and spending time with people that love me and lift me higher. 
I want to look back on my life when my time comes and smile. 
Do you?

Get to know me… Q&A

Hi everyone, 

Thanks for all your private mails and emails with your questions! I like to keep alot of my life quite private so not answering the very personal questions for now but as I do more get to know me blog posts I’m sure I will dive a little deeper!! 
How old are you? 
I am 27! 28 in December! I have always looked much younger than I am so nobody ever believes me when I tell them! Both of my parents look amazing for their ages so I put it down to great genes! 
What do you work as? 
I am a fully qualified beauty therapist. Since having Noa belle I work only from home now. We have a log cabin out our back garden and I work soley from there! 
What advice would you give a first time breast feeder? 
On my blog I do have a few breastfeeding related blogs and blogs I have written that would be great for first time breastfeeders. 
But, to sum it up… Drink loads and loads of water, don’t put yourself under any pressure or any routine and listen to your baby and your maternal instincts! 
Breastfeeding Noa was the best thing I have ever done in my life. 

What do you everyday? 
Kyle is in school, senior infants! So everyday is school runs and most afternoons Kyle has an activity or if he doesn’t he will have a play date. And looking after Noa of course! I work 3 evenings a week too! 

Where did you go to secondary school? 
I went to Holy Faith in Clontarf!

What beauty product is your must have? 
My must have at the moment is moisturiser. I suffer bad from dry skin and psoriasis during pregnancy and it’s at it’s worst at the mo! 
I also above all must have bio oil or coconut oil at the mo too! I used it on both pregnancies and now on #3 and still have no stretch marks! (Fingers crossed!!!)

What is your natural hair colour?
I’m actually really close to my natural hair colour at the mo! I spent all my teenage years dying my hair every colour under the sun so I am enjoying how healthy my hair is now being it’s natural colour! 

There was some more personal questions people asked but for now while my blog is still growing I will keep some things private! 

Thanks for reading, 
Thanks for following
And thanks for the support! 

Lots of love 
Laura 

Things you should never say to a pregnant woman!

Was it planned? 

Now regardless of if she has been trying for years or got drunk and missed her pill- really this is none of your business. She is telling you because she is excited and wants everyone to be excited too! A more appropriate thing to say is plain and simple… Congratulations.. 
Will this be your last? 
Wow- not sure I’ve even discussed that with my husband yet!!!! 
Your bump is tiny! 

Regardless of a woman’s weight, it’s not something we appreciate you commenting on. And pregnancy is no exception. For a woman that is small like me and very conscious of trying to put on weight I don’t want to hear about how small I look and as for a woman who has more weight and perhaps is not showing at all, the same rules apply.. When you say wow your so tiny, you may mean it as a compliment- all I hear is wow is baby okay?!
If you want to compliment a pregnant just tell her she looks amazing- that’ll do the trick! 
Can I rub your belly? 
NO…. Just no!!
Are you hoping for a girl/boy?? 
She has two boys already so already every second person has said “you’re hoping for a girl?” 
Maybe not!!! I know when I was pregnant second time around I would have loved another little boy for a brother for my son.
You shouldn’t drink/eat that…..
Again, just walk away slowly……
I have been sick for 25 weeks straight, breakfast, lunch and dinner. If I can now finally stomach my beloved latte again then that is exactly what I am going to have. 
You know you’re really pregnant for 10months? 
You know that’s actually really annoying when people remind me!!!

If you can’t say anything nice….

So we have all experienced that one person that says too much. Gives too much of their opinion or basically should just keep their mouth shut! 

I have learned a few of these suspects through my journey breastfeeding Noa. And now I have learned the same people have something to say on every aspect of your life. 
On announcing my pregnancy on baby #3 I expected innapropriate comments from a few culprits and boy did I receive them! 
One person whom finding out literally said “oh fuck” I mean who even says that?! She proceeded to ask was I devastated, to which I had my pre prepared answer no it was planned (which it was) but why should I even justify myself. 
Another woman said I was mad to have another one??! But what I find the most amusing is that she bases that stupid comment on what the ten mins a day she sees me in the school yard?! 
Will this one be your last? 
Wow woman are invasive? Not even sure I’ve fully discussed that with my husband yet!!! 
Oh you will have your hands full!!! 
Do you know what I never even thought about that? What am I going to do now??
Your bump is very small… 
No, just no! 
Please comment below your experiences! Would love to read them too! 
Lots of Love
Laura 
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